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I’ve noticed that the more I travel and the busier I become, the more impossible it becomes to keep up with my travels in real-time. Well, never fear monthly recap posts are here!
What I was up to this month
I’m not gonna lie, July wasn’t the easiest month I’ve had in a while. While there were a few highs, like an incredible fourth of July and a second visa trip to Hong Kong, it wasn’t all rainbows and butterflies. To be honest, I’ve kind of been dreading writing the negatives of this post, but you know what? I promised I would be honest, so here it goes.
Where I went
I spent most of this month in Beijing with a quick trip to Hong Kong for my visa… again. Most of you will remember last month I went to Hong Kong to get my business visa, but was denied due to a typo. Thankfully I wasn’t paying for it, and I was able to visit again just one month later!
1. I Got My Visa!
Second time’s the charm I guess… that and triple checking every single item in your visa packet. This newest visa is my 8th Chinese visa, and I’m on my way to getting my residence permit, which will be lucky number nine!
2. More Time In Hong Kong!
This second trip to Hong Kong was a bit more hectic than the first, but I was still able to do some fun things in the city. I decided to get way off the beaten path this time, and visit the most underrated island in all of Hong Kong: Peng Chao! Peng Chao doesn’t have the nicest beaches in the world, but I couldn’t get over the beautiful views and eclectic local homes.
I hiked a small mountain in the center of the island that gave me a fantastic view of surrounding Hong Kong, and wandered the boardwalk at sunset. This hike was actually my very first solo hike, and I felt extremely safe the entire time. However, I did worry a little when the sun started setting and I wasn’t all the way down yet!
3. Having Fun with Snapchat
This month I did three different Snapchat takeovers, which was just as exhausting as it was entertaining. I’ve been having a lot of fun with Snapchat and the community centered around it. Snapchat just seems so much more real than all of the other social media platforms, and I can be my goofy, ridiculous, uncensored self.
Now I just need to get started on Instagram Stories…. Seriously, can they just stop with all the new social media already?!
4. Clearing Out the Drama
This month was one of the most dramatic months in my last 11 months of living in Beijing. At first I thought it might be my fault, and that maybe I was doing something to attract all of this drama in my life. But after a lot of self-reflection, I realized that I was just surrounding myself with the wrong people.
Once I decided to cut those people out of my life, all of the stress, anxiety and grief they caused me slowly disappeared. While it’s always hard to lose people you thought were you friends, clearing out the drama feels great. It can be pretty hard to make long-term friends as an expat, but that doesn’t mean you should lower your standards.
1. Horrible Weather
Beijing’s summer is gross. March through June were fantastic but July took a turn for the worse. We’ve had constant pollution, monsoon rain, major flooding, and sticky, sweaty humidity. So much for getting a tan this summer… I rarely see the sun.
I didn’t think it was possible for a place to be hot, humid, polluted and rainy all at the same time, but somehow Beijing defies logic. Thankfully, pollution tends to coincide with crappy weather, so if you want to come to Beijing, be sure to avoid July, August, December, January and February.
2. Epic Airport Saga
Due to Beijing’s horrible foggy, smoggy, rainy, crappy weather, my flight to Hong Kong was so delayed that I had to go straight to the visa office with my big backpack. No time to stop at my hotel! That was especially fun considering I had to wake up at 4:30am.
Unfortunately for me, that was the least of my airplane worries. While I was in Hong Kong, Beijing experienced crazy flooding to the point that select subway stations were shut, people were jet skiing on the roads, and even fishing in the street! According to the government, over 30 people died in Beijing alone. Thankfully everyone I knew was fine and my apartment wasn’t destroyed, but it was still horrible nonetheless.
Because of this crazy rain, a lot of flights were cancelled or postponed the day before I was supposed to fly back. However, my flight was still on time so I went to the airport as scheduled. My flight ended up boarding two hours late, but as I was about to get on the plane I realized I was missing something… my camera bag!
I’ll save the whole epic tale for another post, but long story short, I ended up getting home five hours later than usual (with my camera!). I didn’t get home until 3:30am and had to be at work to teach a class that started right at 9am. I was able to get 3.5 hours of sleep, and then I slept another two hours on my office floor that afternoon.
3. Remember Those “Friends” I was So Excited About Last Month?
Yeah… that didn’t work out.
Last month I had a whole section dedicated to how excited I was to finally have a group of friends. I can’t even tell you how embarrassing it is to admit that my friendship group blew up in my face. I almost didn’t tell you all about it because I didn’t feel like writing this, but then I realized that the lows are an important part of every expat experience. I pride myself on being honest about the good and the bad, and I don’t want to embark down that blogging path of fake sunshine and rainbows.
To sum things up, one of the members of my group of friends just decided he didn’t like me. I’m not going to go into details, but our personalities don’t really mesh… and he’s voting for Trump, so there’s that. I’m a pretty sensitive and emotional person, and I always try treat other people how I want to be treated. Because of this, I can’t be around people who explode at others and lash out without thinking.
I care really deeply about my friends, and I kept trying to “fix” the tension between us. But when I showed up to his birthday party and was told by a mutual friend he didn’t want me there, I just decided there was no fixing this.
Seriously, I showed up at a birthday party and was told to leave.
Unfortunately for me, this guy is friends with a lot of my friends. Now his girlfriend won’t even talk to me, and I’ve been excluded from a few social gatherings of mutual friends. The old Richelle would cry in a puddle daily, but the more adult me is taking it in stride… for the most part.
As Dita Von Teese once said, “You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches.”
My Most Popular Post
I finally got around to writing about THINX Period Panties for travel! While a guy friend told me that it was more than he ever wanted to know about my flow, most of you ladies seemed to really enjoy it. A ton of you even purchased your own THINX through my coupon link, which was great to see. Unfortunately for me, it’s not an affiliate link so I have a million $10 off coupons I don’t know what to do with.
This month I finished up with my shots from the Philippines! Your favorite was a restaurant along San Juan beach in Siquijor.
Song of the Month
I’m loving Twenty One Pilot’s Heathens, which is featured in the new movie Suicide Squad! Unfortunately for me, I have to wait to see Margot Robbie work her magic because this movie isn’t scheduled to come to China anytime soon…
What I’m Reading
This month I completely broke my old Kindle by dropping it down a flight of stairs, which was kind of sad but it was dying anyway. I’m super excited about my Kindle Paperwhite though! I’m currently working my way through the fifth and final Game of Thrones book.
As for blog posts, these are my favorites:
Is Rio Really That Bad?– Expat Edna
Want to know what’s really going on in Rio? Why not ask someone who’s on the ground working for the Olympics.
I Got Arrested in Kazakhstan– Medium
Sometimes the worst travel moments make the best (and craziest!) stories.
One Year in Norway: The Wins, The Struggles and The Total Fails– Heart My Backpack
Norway is the complete OPPOSITE of Beijing, but for some reason reading this post makes me feel like our lives are so similar.
What’s Next for August 2016
This month I’m leading a summer camp through work for a new crop of Chinese high school students. Today I dressed up as a banana and threw candy at children. I’ll be pretty busy with this camp working 6-day weeks, but I hope to do some exploring in my free time.
On a less exciting note, one of my coworkers recently passed away and I’ll be attending his funeral tomorrow morning. The whole process of death is so different in China. I’m hoping to create a post to discuss this and honor him at the same time.
I hope you all had a fantastic July. Let’s hope August is a good one!
14 comments on “This Beijing Life: Month 11”
Thanks for sharing the good and the bad, I appreciate the honesty in your writing. Hoping good things and good times find you in August. I really like the blog post favorites of your monthly roundup, Because of you, i have found some new bloggers to follow. Thank you
Thanks so much Marcy :) I always try to be honest, even if it’s hard to talk about. I’m glad you enjoy my featured blog posts though, that’s great feedback! There are so many awesome writers out there, I love sharing my favorite articles every month, and I always try to vary the bloggers I feature to give you all some great new people to follow.
I’m so sorry to hear about your friend issues Richelle. I know how hard it is to make friends as an expat (struggling with making ANY at the moment tbh) and it’s a sucky feeling no matter where you are. I’m sure things will turn around for you! xo
Yeah I’ve realized that it’s hard to make friends outside of work as an adult in general. When I was studying abroad or studying as a master’s student it was super easy, but when you work all the time it can be hard. I figured I should have any easy time since living abroad is so interesting an different, of course I should be surrounded by cool people. But honestly, I find myself making stronger connections with travel bloggers which is cool but also unfortunate since they don’t live anywhere!
First of all, reading this makes me really glad that I decided to skip town this summer and head to Bali instead. I knew that summer in Beijing would be bad but that flooding sounded intense. And I wasn’t aware that the air had been so bad all month. That being said, I’ll be right there with you this winter though! I’m sorry to hear about your friends. Beijing does have such a small expat community and I can only imagine that it can be cliquey and drama filled. Like you I’m incredibly sensitive. But you have the right attitude about it. Don’t let it get you down too much! And, as always, I love your honestly. Being an expat can be rough at times. So it’s nice for someone like me to read the good and the bad. Because I experience a lot of both.
Yeah the last few weeks have had horrible weather, but today it’s beautiful out! I was jealous seeing all of your Bali pictures though. I want to be on the beach right now! As for expat friendships, I thought since Beijing has so many expats it would be super easy, but everyone knows everyone and people are either transient or already have a solid group of friends so it can be really hard to break in. For some reason I find myself connecting with travel bloggers really easily, but not Beijing’s expats which is weird.
Hi Richelle, this is my first comment on your blog but I’ve been following for a while. I’m also a fellow China expat, but down in Shenzhen. Just wanted to say how much I appreciate your real, raw writing, even the not so positive parts of your month. I really feel you. I recently went through exactly the same thing here, where someone just randomly decided they didn’t like me. It’s so hurtful, but it’s also a nice wake up call to remind us to surround ourselves with positive people. That’s how I’m trying to view it anyway :) Farewell to the negative nancies! Hope you keep smiling, writing and enjoying life!
Thanks so much for all your kind words Siobhan! It’s good to know that it’s not just me dealing with this stuff. -and thanks for finally commenting! It’s always good to know that there are real people reading what I have to say hahaha
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I would love to be friends with you. I think we have similar personalities and I would always welcome you at my birthday party. Unfortunately we live in different countries right now. But I watch your snaps all the time and feel like maybe we’re friends anyway. Hope you have a better month.
Thanks so much LaMesha! I feel that way about so many people too :) What’s your Snapchat? I can’t remember if I’m following you or not. Do you post regularly?
No I don’t post regularly, but I’m fakefrenchgirl on there and mesha_monster on instagram.
Good to know! I think I’m following you on Snapchat but I’ll find you on Instagram later :)
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